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Friday, 28 March 2014

Minecraft Prayer Space

The 'God Building'
Inside on the Mezzanine Landing of the Chapel
I've been inspired by Miranda Threlfall-Holmes 'Teenage Prayer Experiment' which included her recent post, in which she encouraged her son to build a place of prayer on Minecraft (a digital game which enables kids to build worlds and creations using square blocks). Minecraft sounds basic but it actually has no end of possibilities! My youngest two are big fans of the game and so today (first day of the hols!) I set them to work creating their own Minecraft Prayer Spaces. 

They actually loved the idea and took it on with great enthusiasm. I've got to admit I wondered whether they would just end up playing on the game, but no, they both took it seriously, we prayed first and they spent about 2 hours building their spaces. I basically just left them to get on with it and it's been interesting to see the ideas they have come up with. They had a Prayer space in their school recently and I think they were inspired by that as they both chose to have different areas with different themes in their spaces. It's also interesting how they have used the dynamics of the game to come up with different ideas. My daughter just came in and showed me how she had Jesus both walking on water and ascending to heaven!

Space to pray for animals and living things
My son has really gone to town and the pictures here are from his space. I don't think the pics really do it justice, it's really an amazing building and I think it would be great as a real building (although the cross on top might be a tad oversized! see pic above). It has two levels, glass walls, a chapel inside it, mezzanine level, underground room to pray for friends and family, and lots more. In fact it reminded me of the early temples, with an inner space and lots of different areas, including animals!

Inside the chapel with space for hymn books!
Once they had built their spaces I encouraged them to actually pray and imagine themselves praying in the space. My son said he liked the idea of having different areas to pray for different things and that he found this helpful when praying. He also liked the idea of having a prayer space within Minecraft, which is his favourite game. He really enjoyed building it and said that it made him think about why and how he prays.

This is a great idea and I am very glad Miranda highlighted it. It's so important to get our kids thinking about prayer, what it is, and what it can mean for them and their relationship with God. I really love new and interesting ways of thinking about prayer especially for kids and this one is a definite hit in our house! I'm hoping we can use this again in our family prayer time.

Wednesday, 26 March 2014

World Vision and 'that' decision

If you haven't seen this reported (and if you're not a Christian who supports 'World Vision' there is no reason you should have) child sponsorship charity World Vision this week basically announced a change in staffing policy indicating some level of support for gay relationships and then, 2 days later it retracted it. World Vision is a charity whose aim is to reach some of the worlds poorest children and raises most of its funds through child sponsorship. As a Christian charity it has prided itself on its Christian foundation and values. 

Earlier this week WV announced in a letter to staff that it was changing its policy on employee conduct in relationships, and would allow those in same sex marriages to be employed within the organisation. (Now your first reaction may be that it would have been illegal not to, but this happened in the US and I am not entirely sure what the law states there, but that is not what I want to focus on.)

WV states the following:
By way of background, our board of directors is recognized as one of the leaders among Christian organizations in the U.S. It includes deeply spiritual and wise believers, among them several pastors, a seminary president, and a professor of theology. Since this policy change involves the sensitive issue of human sexuality, the board spent several years praying about and discussing this issue.

They have spent several years praying about and discussing this issue. That is not a hasty decision.

They also state:
...since World Vision is a multi-denominational organization that welcomes employees from more than 50 denominations, and since a number of these denominations in recent years have sanctioned same-sex marriage for Christians, the board—in keeping with our practice of deferring to church authority in the lives of our staff, and desiring to treat all of our employees equally—chose to adjust our policy. Thus, the board has modified our Employee Standards of Conduct to allow a Christian in a legal same-sex marriage to be employed at World Vision… We have chosen not to exclude someone from employment at World Vision U.S. on this issue alone.

This seems like a well balanced decision, well thought out and prayed through (regardless of what you feel about the decision). After announcing this decision the Christian internet went into overdrive, with people publicly slamming the organisation and withdrawing support for sponsored children. I read that they had lost sponsorship, in just a few days, for 2000 children. 2000 children? Obviously some people sponsor more than one child but by any estimation this means that at the very least hundreds of people have decided to take their unhappiness at this decision out on some of the worlds poorest children. Where does one even start on this? I am absolutely appalled. If you are reading this as a non Christian, then I am sorry. I apologise to you. I am sorry that people who profess to believe in the same God I do, would do this. I am sorry that yet again you have to read of Christians behaving in this way. If they really feel that strongly then by all means challenge the company, but withdrawing support from some of the poorest kids on the planet? how is that sending a Christian message? How is that showing the love of God…?

So then, it saddens me even more that today the organisation has reversed their decision, seemingly as a direct result of what seems to be emotional blackmail. Their original statement says that they have spent years praying about this. This is not a decision made lightly and yet within just two days they have gone back on it. I have said before and I will say again that I do not know where I stand on gay marriage doctrinally, so I don't want to focus on that,  but what I am sure of is that God loves everyone regardless of colour, race or sexual preference. God does not send people away or turn his back on people. I can't believe that an organisation like this would then bow to people who are effectively turning their back on a biblical principle: to support the poor. And no matter how much you read scripture, I don't believe you can make it say otherwise - God calls us to support and care for the poorest amongst us.

I want to shout at these people, 'how dare you. How dare you?' These people are blessed enough to be able to even consider sponsoring a child. They don't have to worry about having enough food for their children. They don't have to worry about whether their child might die from a treatable condition. They don't have to spare a thought for whether men might come in the night and attack their family. How can you even consider doing this? how can you explain to a child loving in abject poverty, 'oh hey, I'm sorry but I can't help you anymore, because you know those people who come and help you? well I disagree with something they said so I'm taking my money back.' I mean really? 

Christian Blogger Rachel Held Evans has posted on this and here on the reversal, and the comments section shows just how strongly people feel about this issue and I recognise their pain. All that seems to have come out of this situation is just an even bigger row about homosexuality in the church and a heap of poor kids are the ones who are going to suffer because of it. Where is the justice in that?

I love the church but it frustrates me how so often, all people see of it is the arguing, the hateful comments, the hurt and pain caused in the name of faith. It makes me so angry...

Where is the God of love in all this?

edit: 27/3/14
Some further thoughts here and also an interesting link to the Psephizo blog (although I don't agree with all he says) but does provoke some questions is here

The point has been made that withdrawing support doesn't mean withdrawing support from all poor kids, people might donate elsewhere…

Well, of course yes, that withdrawn support may be given to other charities and if someone were finding a charity to support for the first time then I would expect people to look for one with whom they supported the same values. We have done exactly this. 

However withdrawing support in this way I feel is morally wrong on 2 levels. 

1) because the way child sponsorship works is that you don't just send money, but you form a relationship with that child through letters and other communication. Withdrawing support means also withdrawing this relationship, which in some cases would have been built up over years. That affects the child directly, not just the organisation. 

2) Because most charities rely on regular donations to enable them to plan ahead and fund projects, knowing there is a certain level of income. Of course people do change their giving for other reasons but in child sponsorship it is usually seen as a long term commitment to that child. In this case two thousand have reputedly removed their sponsorship already. Even for quite a large organisation like World Vision, this is going to make a big dent. Sponsorship is $35/month, so in one month that would be a loss of $70,000, and over a year $840,000… That surely has to affect their work and I'm sure this is why they reversed the decision, thinking they could stem the flow of people dropping sponsorship quickly. 

and some more interesting thoughts here at David Fitch's blog

Further edit, this just seen on the band Casting Crowns Facebook page:

Dear Friends,
For the past ten years, Casting Crowns has been a voice for World Vision and we've seen over 70,000 children sponsored. We stand on the stage before thousands of people every night and speak on their behalf, but we had no idea their decision concerning same-sex marriage was being discussed or decided.
We've been in 21 countries and almost every state in the U.S. As Jesus-followers, we have purposed that we would never be the band that preached against behavior; but that we would be the band that pointed people to Jesus. We are all broken and we all need the love and grace that only God can give.
We've never agreed with same-sex marriage; but we've chosen rather than shouting out against life choices, that we would shout out that Jesus is better. Disagreeing with someone's lifestyle is not hate. We simply believe that God has a better way.
World Vision released a statement yesterday reversing the decision that was made earlier this week. After hearing their humble and sincere apology, we are walking through all of the information, seeking Godly council and praying for God's direction on our partnership in the future.
We will always be a voice for the poor and the powerless. Our families will continue to sponsor the World Vision children we've committed to and we encourage others to do the same.
We will always strive to invest our lives in involving families in giving and reaching out to hurting people in the name of Jesus.
Mark Hall
Casting Crowns

Saturday, 22 March 2014


These past few days my husband and I have been at a spa. It was a joint treat for our 40th birthdays. This is not the kind of thing either of us usually go in for. We manage to get away just the two of us about once a year but usually we do a city break or similar - something to do. This time however I felt it was important we both had some time out so we looked for somewhere we could go for country walks, hang out and read the paper. What we found was a spa hotel in Wiltshire.

Now we are not the kind of people to loll around in bathrobes being primped and preened for days, but that is basically what we have done and it has been fantastic!

When we left home on Thursday morning it is fair to say that I was asleep by the time we reached the M25 (having only been up for about 3 hours!) We arrived here and on a whim I booked a facial for the afternoon, well you know I am 40 now, better start thinking about those wrinkles… In order to have the facial I had to succumb to the aforementioned bathrobe, oh and don't forget the nice white towelling slippers. Mmmm, trendy….  Now I have never had a facial but man am I a convert. For an hour I lay cocooned in warmth, with the dulcet sounds of birdsong and gentle guitar riffs wafting over me, while some lovely young thing gently massaged my face and shoulders with creams and potions that smelled divine. Oh my gosh, why oh why have I never done this before? It was sheer bliss and had it not been for the small nap in the car earlier I would undoubtedly have slept through the whole thing.

I came out from this idyll to sit in the 'relaxation room' where my husband found me, practically drunk on the atmosphere of calm and serenity, half lying, half draped on a chaise long (I exaggerate only slightly). What is this world? I need more of it that's for sure!
Meanwhile my husband had discovered his white fluffy robe, the outdoor pool (yes outdoor in March but it was like a bath!) and the sauna.  We had arrived. Rest was upon us. And oh how needed it was.

As Christians we often talk of the importance of rest - after all God rested on the 7th day (Gen 2: 2-3) and set it aside to be holy ' And God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating he had done' and yet, we rarely get it! The Seventh day for so many of us is not exactly a holy place of calm and rest. For some it means the round of football matches, rugby training and standing on the touchline in the rain for hours, and of course the early morning rise that goes along with it. Now I do go to church on Sunday of course, but even so it is often not about rest, it's a work day.  I worship God but I don't often see it as a restful or holy day.

That's how it is for so many of us, so when do we rest? It is biblical principal and even if it weren't I think we'd all agree we need regular breaks, rests or a holiday from all the 'creating' we do. Where do you get your rest? How do you get your rest? My husband said  he finds exercise restful, but there is a difference between things that energise us and actually having a rest (both of which we need).

These last few days I have spent hours just sitting. Doing nothing. Not even reading. It's the kind of thing I would think in advance, oh how dull. And it's the kind of ting I find hard to do - just sit and do nothing, I can't even watch the TV without checking my tweets or sorting out the post tray. But no. It's only when you stop, and I mean truly stop, that you realise exactly how much you needed to.

In this 21st century world, getting real rest is not easy is it? There is always something to do. Even for Christians, actually having a Sabbath, a day of rest, is almost impossible. I know I struggle with balance of work and rest but it has only really been these last few days when I have really stopped that I recognise what rest really is. So here's to more of it…

Now excuse me while I pop off for a last manicure, darling...

Monday, 10 March 2014

a day of extremes

It's funny how it happens sometimes, you experience such extremes of behaviour in one day…

This morning I was at a prayer meeting for a local mission initiative set in an area with many needs. One of the key people there is always keen to note that we should use language to describe the area and the people there in a positive light. It would be very easy to describe the area in derogatory terms, doing it down and with it the people who live there. I love this attitude as it shows a real depth of compassion for the people regardless of circumstance, social standing or ability.

and then this evening, the opposite….

a little while ago, I came across a tweet referring to Gemma Worrall, the young beautician who had referred to 'Barraco Barner' in a tweet last week and subsequently been slated on social media for her mistake. I have followed this vaguely via twitter but what has really got my goat is this article, tweeted earlier this evening.

In it Toby Young cites the fact that Gemma has 17 GCSEs and that he is speechless, implying it is unbelievable, he then sets into a rant about Labour's previous policies on education. Well, running a free school he had to get a political education angle in there somewhere, didn't he. I am so incensed by his attitude that anyone 'like her' doesn't have the potential to get a good education, or that it matters that much anyway.

I went to both state and private schools growing up and my kids are experiencing the same mix. There are of course pros and cons to both. But above all, what I want for them is that they will come out the other end of their education  as well rounded individuals who have both the determination needed to go where they want to and do what they want to do, but also the love and compassion to do so with integrity and honour. Good memories of school would help too! If they want to be beauticians, mechanics, cleaners, I don't care, so long as they are happy.

You can throw muck, call people names, slate them, but at the end of the day what does that make you? Bigot? Name-caller? nasty? what I do know is that Gemma Worrall seems to have handled this whole episode with good humour and a great attitude, which is more than can be said for all those throwing insults around.

And aside from that, you can call her names, but at the end of the day, we all need people like Gemma, people who do jobs that they love even if they aren't the best paid or need the best education. Beauticians do lots of things but the most common denominator would be haircuts I guess - and I bet everyone calling her names uses a hairdresser quite happily… 

Saturday, 8 March 2014

International Women's Day

Today is International Women's Day, which has been celebrated since the early 1900s but has definitely had a lot more interest in recent years. Do have a look at the website for more info, and there are events all over the place if you are interested.

So then, it seemed only right to write about women today and so I want to highlight just a few of the women who have inspired me in my life so far (I will be tweeting these and more at @redjules )


My Mum - we haven't always seen eye to eye, but my Mum taught me form an early age that a woman's place was not just in the home. She was in fact, great at the domestic stuff and even now my kids prefer her roast to mine (I'm not bitter about that.. ;) ) but aside from that she worked as a teacher from when I was quite little. I really appreciate the sense of independence that she gave me through that.

My Auntie Sarah - although I'm sad that I haven't seen her for a long time, Sarah was another person who got me thinking about women's status from a young age. She had (and I suspect still has!) ambition and drive to study and learn more in her field and is now a Senior Lecturer in the History department at Goldsmiths, London.  I'm not sure that my family always approved of her but I secretly looked up to her and loved that she knew what she wanted to do and just got on with it. When I got pregnant and became a single parent, she visited me in the hospital and I have always remembered that she was so supportive when others weren't. I'm not sure I ever really thanked her for that - so Sarah, thank you :)

Yvrose Telfort - Yvrose runs Hope House School & Orphanage in rural Haiti with her husband Pierre Richard and is quite simply a legend!  She gave up her nice, safe and well paid teaching job in the US to go to Haiti and help those in need. After the earthquake she took in children whose parents had died and also began a school for the poorest kids in the area. They live by faith, relying on God for their daily needs and yet have such an amazing faith that he will provide, even in the most hopeless of circumstances. She has turned around the lives of so many children in Haiti and impacted huge numbers of adults with her determination and unwavering faith.

Heidi Baker - if you have not come across Heidi Baker do look her up. With her husband Rolland she runs Iris Ministries in Mozambique. She felt Gods calling to go there years ago and in her time there has suffered great hardship and persecution and yet, like Yvrose, has such amazing faith and trust in God. She has impacted thousands of people, and has planted hundreds of churches in her time in Mozambique. God is using her to transform the entire nation. 

Nikki M - my lovely friend Nikki is one of the nicest people you could meet. She is just one of those people that the love of Jesus shines out from. She's supportive, loving, giving and I really value her friendship.

Nix - I didn't know Nix that well but we were friends, and watching her battle with the dreaded cancer was awful but at the same time so inspiring. I never saw her complain about the illness or her pain and throughout it all she continued to bless those around her. I went to pray with her a few times and I always came away feeling more blessed myself as she insisted on asking how I was and wanting to pray for me. She was always interested in other people and how she could help them. Even as she approached the end she was full of hope and love, and her faith in the face of it all was frankly astounding.

In the bible - Esther & Ruth
I love the story of Esther, even though there are distinct features of misogyny! She uses her position to save her people, in the face of fear and a real possibility of death. She is an example of great courage and being a strong women in a society that commanded women to be subservient and allowed them very little.

And Ruth, a wonderful example of great loyalty as she stands by her mother in law after the death of her husband. 

These are just a few of the women who have impacted my life in one way or another. Who has impacted you? Check out my Twitter feed as I tweet these and more throughout the day...

Thursday, 6 March 2014

"Taste & see that the Lord is good"

I had some fun with sweets and prayer last week. I love to pray for people and I also love to bless people in simple ways. So, when I went away for my latest Vicar School weekend I prayed for some of my fellow students and for my kids too. 

When I pray for others I love to ask God for encouraging words for them and this time I thought it might be fun to use sweets to do this!

"Taste & see that the Lord is good"

I love the scripture 'Taste & See that the Lord is good' - Psalm 34:8 and that was my inspiration then I just asked God for a word for each person and a sweet to relate it to! 
So Starburst (although I still call them Opal Fruits - anyone else?!) became - Shine like the stars for Jesus (ref to Philippians 2:15). Or a Milky Way reminded me of Isaiah 40:26:
"Lift up your eyes and look to the heavens:Who created all these?He who brings out the starry host one by one and calls forth each of them by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing"

Refreshers - because God wants to refresh you (Proverbs 11:25)

"A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed"

And Skittles - the colour of the rainbow - God's covenant to us. There's loads more you could do with this and I've got to say it was fun standing in Tesco asking God to show me which sweets to buy. Stood there for ages, must have looked like a loon but what fun! Who said being a Christian was dull...

Sunday, 2 March 2014

Some Research into 'The Discernment Process' and a plea for help...

So, I wrote recently via Anita'a blog 'Dreaming Beneath the Spires' about my recent experiences at Vicar School. What I forgot to include - probably from anxiety about the vicar school weekend ;)  - was a plea for help..!

I've been wanting to write about the discernment process (i.e. what happens before you get to go to Vicar School) from a personal perspective. There's not much info out there about discernment itself and unless you manage to meet up with others going through it (which some dioceses encourage) it's hard to know what to expect, or what will come next - it can be a real emotional roller coaster!

So, I'm in the process of writing a short guide to discernment (with a view to publishing, but not sure when or where yet) from a personal angle. The sort of thing that would be useful to anyone embarking on discernment - top tips to surviving, that kind of thing!

Anyway I'd love to hear from people who have been through the discernment process in the last few years (5 max) and wouldn't mind sharing about their own experiences.  I have a short questionnaire I can send out to anyone who's willing to help (and I will keep info anonymous to avoid any potential fall out and to get real honest answers!)

You can contact me using the contact form on the right hand side or tweet me @redjules and please do spread the word...

Many Thanks!