Tuesday, 29 March 2011
Receiving compliments gracefully
Can I ask you all something? How does one receive a compliment well? gracefully and yet not puffed up, accepting but not proud? I think this is almost harder for Christians to do, when we do something well, we want (or maybe think we ought) to give the glory to God, but then how to do that without being pious?
Last Sunday I led the service for the first time. It went well, I think ,and we had a debrief this morning that seemed to echo that (with a few minor details for next time, if there is one...). Lots of people came up and said 'well done' to me, people I didn't even know. Which was lovely and affirming too, especially when I had been very nervous beforehand. But I just didn't know what to say to people! Just a quiet 'thank you' was all I managed or possibly a 'well you know it was God working through me, not me' to which 2 people replied, 'well I think it was a bit of you...' to which there is no answer! To be honest I wanted them to just go away (which sounds incredibly ungrateful I know, sorry...) it made me feel uncomfortable. Gosh, I'm not in denial I think it went well, but it was just a few words on a stage, it wasn't anything really meaningful or dramatic. And ultimately the point of the leader is to guide people into worship, into meeting with God, not standing up to be 'seen', so I just did what I was up there to do.
I've never been good at receiving compliments though. Maybe its a girl thing. If someone says I have cooked a nice meal, I seem to have to make a joke about it or make some trivial comment, if someone compliments me on how I look, I make fun of myself. What is that about? I mean I am a confident person, its not that I don't necessarly agree with what the compliment is, but I can't help myself... Is it what is expected of us? because if we accept it too easily then we seem arrogant or proud?
So how does one accept a compliment gracefully? I wish I knew....!